Eight years ago, somewhere between scheduling play dates for my youngest and running our household I caught my 16-year old son smoking weed with a few friends. Upon discovering this scene, I became irate. What was he thinking? Hadn’t we talked about choosing not to use drugs? Was I being naive thinking my child would never… Whatever the case may be when it comes to teens and drugs, every mother fears for their child.
And my fears were further amplified since addiction ran in our family. Part of me felt my son was just being a typical teenager, experimenting. But the other part of me, my intuitive side, knew he was using this particular drug to escape his reality. You see both his father and step-father battled drug addiction and I feared the trickle-down effect.
My primal urge was to protect my child, thus I just couldn’t stand by and not punish my child for his choices. This began my campaign to complain and harp on how marijuana is a “gateway” drug, that is, a drug that increases the likelihood of using hard core drugs such as cocaine. Honestly, I believed the key to deterring marijuana use was to nag, nag, and nag some more.